I (Ginny) took this picture Tuesday afternoon, which was a gorgeous spring day — the sun was warm, the birds were chirping, and my girls had just picked some bright, colorful tulips from our backyard. Naomi, my 4-year old, had been asking all morning, “Mom, can we PLEASE do something REALLY fun today?”
We had just gotten done making Aussie Bites (super delicious mini-muffins; click here for recipe) and it struck me that we were way overdue for an outdoor tea party. (And besides, the girls had already had their dresses on!) So, I asked Naomi to get her tea dishes out and set up the table outside and we would have ourselves a lovely mother/daughter tea party. For about 20 minutes, we enjoyed our muffins and “tea” and visited about really important things in life, like imaginary ponies and pretend dance parties. I snapped this picture with my phone and the first thing that came to mind was, “Wow, doesn’t that just look like the perfect afternoon?” And then I chuckled to myself thinking, “If only people saw the REST of the story!” 🙂
And as I pondered that, I decided, “I NEED to tell people the REST of the story, lest they think our life is anywhere near “perfect.” You see, I hear all the time how people compare themselves to other people — their homes, their bodies, their clothes, their cars…their abilities to cook, keep a house organized, keep their children quiet in church, run a marathon. It can seem so easy to see a few pictures (which are likely filtered or airbrushed) or hear a couple stories (the good parts anyway), and think that other people’s lives are somehow better, or more “perfect,” than our own. And what good does all this comparing do? None. N-O-N-E. None!
So, before I go any further, here’s the REST of the story behind this “perfect” photo of my two girls:
- If you could zoom in really closely to Naomi’s arm, you’d see a bruise mark in the shape of Eliana’s mouth. Yes, Eliana bit her so hard yesterday it left a bruise. Or in Naomi’s words, “Eliana just PINCHED me! With her MOUTH!” 🙁
- You also might not have noticed in this picture that Eliana’s hair is wet. Well that’s because she just got out of the bathtub. Bath in the middle of the day, you might ask? Well, yes….because of my half-hearted attempts at potty-training, she still has several messy accidents, and well…let’s just say this one in particular was definitely bath-worthy.
- Now, it seems that Eliana is the trouble-maker here, but believe me, she’s not the only “imperfect” one in the photo. About an hour before the tea party, I had to discipline Naomi because she continued being disrespectful while saying our lunchtime prayer. We do this every day. The rules don’t change. But today, apparently she thought the rules didn’t apply to her. She was wrong.
I hope this gives you a small glimpse into the reality of my life. It’s far from perfect — just like everyone else’s. I’m not complaining about it… it’s just the way it is. I love my life, and I also work on trying to “better” the areas that need work. But I know it’ll never be perfect. I will never be perfect. And that’s ok. I just want to be REAL with people. I’m okay playing pretend games with my kids, but I won’t play pretend with the rest of my life. Let’s be REAL with each other. Let’s not compare ourselves with others. Let’s just be the best version of ourselves we were created to be.
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A recent conversation at the dinner table went like this:
Jack, my 4-year old: “Mom, are you or aunt Ginny a gooder cooker?” (pronounced: /ˈyo͝okər/)
Me: “Oh, I think your aunt Ginny is by far, Buddy.”
Jack: “Yeah. I think so, too.”
Eva, my 5-year old: “I think you both are good cookers, Mom.”
Me: “Ahhh. Thanks, Eva!”
Jack: “Yeah. I think you both are good cookers.”
Me: “Thanks, Jack.”
My kids LOVE their aunt Ginny. Jack wishes she’d live next to us again. Eva wishes she’d live WITH us. And I agree.
You see, my whole life I have had the privilege of being Ginny’s younger sister. Some people don’t like following in their sister’s footsteps…. but they must not have a sister like mine. With Ginny, it’s like she willingly paves the path because she wants the journey to be easier for those behind her.
“Liz. There’s this new major at SDSU. It’s called Health Promotion. I think you’d love it!”
“Liz. I asked my professor, Dr. Melby, if you could do your college internship with him this summer. He said, yes! Do you want to? You could live with me in Colorado, get your residency, and then go to graduate school like you want!”
“Liz. There’s this training in corporate wellness that I am hosting. You can come, learn about corporate wellness, and maybe make that your career route.”
“Liz. Larimer County joined the Fort Collins Well City Initiative and will be hiring a wellness coordinator. I think you should apply!”
And so it goes.
My years in Colorado with her were some of the best years of my life. My sister and I lived, worked, and had fun together. I married her good friend Elliot; she married Halden, one of my graduate school classmates. She directed a large-scale community health initiative. I coordinated a smaller corporate one. We had kids at the same time… all literally within weeks or months of each other. Eventually, our families moved out of Colorado… hers to Nebraska, mine to Minnesota. But even though we live a few states away now, I still find myself referring to her all the time.
For instance, when we have friends over:
“Liz, I don’t usually like cauliflower, but this is really good!”
Me: “Thanks, Alex. It’s my sister Ginny’s recipe. Just roasted with olive oil, salt, pepper, and Lawry’s seasoning.”
“Liz, this is so cool! Where did you get it?”
Me: “Thanks! My sister Ginny made it for me. Fence posts, paint, and carbon paper… I guess it’s not that hard.”
Or, when people ask about my kids.
“Liz, how is Jack doing? I know he was acting out a lot last time I talked to you.”
Me: “He’s great! My sister Ginny told me about a book that offers advice on how to use a heart-centered approach to discipline. It’s changed my life… and my kids.”
Seriously… she is amazing.
So much so, in fact, that I recently asked her to work with me!
Ginny, more than anyone, knows and shares my heart for helping people end their struggle with health… particularly their struggle with weight. She has so much to offer people… and I am so excited to share her strengths with you, which include everything from meal planning and cooking to corporate wellness and so much more! And although she is a Registered Dietitian, she is NOT the food police… she’s the furthest thing from it, in fact.
As you may have guessed by now, I’m referring to her work as a “Lil Shot of Gin.” 🙂
For the record, I never used to consume alcohol. Then I had kids. Now wine is right up there with my Grandma Burke’s chocolate cake. Ha! (I recommend keeping both to an enjoyable minimum, by the way.) Regardless of your drinking or non-drinking habits, though, I think everyone needs a Lil Shot of Gin in their life… this kind anyway. I know I do.
She titled her first Lil Shot of Gin: “What’s for Dinner? How to Create an Awesome Meal Plan in 3 Simple Steps.” Simply click and download or join our Well Simplified Club and you’ll gain full access to it and other great, simple, and helpful resources from “Ginny, R.D. and mom of 3,” in the future… all created to help you enjoy health rather than struggle with it!
- Do you struggle with weight?
- Why do you want to end your struggle with weight?
- Why do you think you struggle with weight?
- What strategies have you tried to help end your struggle with weight?
- What advice, if any, do you have for people to end their struggle with weight?
I was just as interested in hearing from people who struggled with weight as from those who didn’t. Thankfully, I heard from all types:
- 74% said they struggled with weight.
- 12% said they struggled with weight, but secretly.
- 8% said they no longer struggle with weight, but used to.
- 6% said they’ve never struggled with weight.
These stats alone are a very telling story: Most people, regardless of their size, struggle with this issue. It’s sensitive. It’s hard to overcome. And yet, there’s hope.
Those in the first two categories shared a common desire to feel better, be more confident, fit into their clothes easier, have more energy, be happier, and be less mentally consumed with their weight. They credited their struggle mainly to overeating, a love of sweets, stress, always being on a diet, lack of willpower, not enough exercise, being too busy, age, and poor body image. And to help end their struggle, they reported trying everything from fad diets to laxatives to calorie counting and more. Ironically, none of them recommended any such strategies to others.
What did they recommend? Support, physical activity, a change in mindset, loving and taking care of yourself, patience, prayer, and not focusing on weight.
Their advice, in fact, reflected that of people in the other categories… those who have successfully ended their struggle with weight or who’ve never struggled with it. These people recommended facing your feelings, figuring out why you are eating, having an accountability coach, staying positive, taking health one day at a time, eating for nourishment, eating what tastes truly good to you, listening to your hunger, setting up a supportive food environment, getting exercise on a daily basis, and prayer. (Notice: no focus on weight.)
So where does this leave us? Well, I think it leaves us with the notion that well-being trumps weight… and that though well-being might not be the “habit” of everyone just yet, it is – deep down – at the heart of everyone…. those who struggle and those who don’t.
Is this focus on well-being (rather than weight) at the heart of health professionals, corporate wellness initiatives, and public health efforts, as well? According to some survey responses, like this one, you might not think so.
I have been told I was fat since I was 5’8″ and 150 lbs. Now at 285, this is a much bigger problem. So if medical professionals stop telling people they are fat when they are athletic or a medium to large build, that would be a better approach. I think I gave up as a high schooler thinking 150 lbs was the end of the world even though I was active in sports.
Thankfully, however, research and experience are starting to show otherwise.
More and more, a weight-inclusive approach to health care and health improvement seems to be getting more attention. Such an approach assumes that every person is capable of achieving health and well-being independent of weight, and promotes strategies such as intuitive eating, size acceptance, and engaging in pleasurable physical activity.
In their review article, “The Weight-Inclusive versus Weight-Normative Approach to Health: Evaluating the Evidence for Prioritizing Well-Being over Weight Loss,” Tylka, Annunziato, Burgard et al. point out various dangers that arise when weight is overemphasized…. dangers such as weight cycling, risk of disordered eating, and weight stigma. They also argued these three major shortcomings of such a weight-normative approach:
- Data does not (and cannot) support the claim that higher body mass index (BMI) causes poor health.
- The weight normative approach bestows negative judgments onto higher-weight individuals by promoting the view that such individuals are unhealthy, a burden to society, and have poor lifestyle habits.
- Promoting “healthy weight” as the key to health and well-being may instill a sense of learned helplessness in many people who are unable to attain weight-based goals.
As a corporate health professional, health and wellness coach, and person who used to secretly struggle with weight, I am very excited to see people and society on this verge of “weight-inclusion.” I think we can all agree that this “weight thing” is a whole other ballgame…. for our nation, health professionals, employers, and people alike.
But one I’ve seen “won” many times over… when wellness programs, health professionals, and the people they serve realize that the struggle with weight isn’t actually about weight at all. And thus, neither are the solutions to it.
Get your free Love It or Leave It! Stop the Madness challenge here… a 4-week challenge based on the advice of survey takers who no longer struggle or never struggled with weight. Why not follow in their footsteps?
Yes. I admit. I used the overused heart cliche in my title this month. Forgive me… and thank you for resisting the temptation to scroll on by and/or push DELETE just out of spite. I love you! 😉
Warning: I carry on like this a few more times in this blog, but it’s not overkill. (Just consider yourself warned.) At any rate…
As many of you know, I happen to have a heart for helping people end their struggle with health… particularly their struggle with weight. From the time I was a young girl I saw my mom – one of the most beautiful, smartest, kindest, selfless and hard-working people I know – desperately try to lose weight but often gain it instead. Her struggle affected her energy, her work, her relationships… her whole life. And though she put on a happy face much of the time, I knew she didn’t feel great about herself. And she certainly deserved to. This weight thing robbed her of it. And even when I was little, this really made me sad. To say it bothered me is an understatement.
And do you know what continues to bother me? The line of bull that those who are struggling with weight are fed (by others or themselves), things like:
- You can’t trust yourself.
- You must not know enough about food or exercise.
- If you just follow a certain diet or exercise plan, then you won’t struggle.
- You must lack will power.
- You should be a certain size.
Why am I so familiar with these falsehoods? Oh, trust me. I have not always been exempt to them; they used to consume my brain, as well… and make it very tired. And working with others one-on-one, in group settings, and corporately on this “weight” thing only (unfortunately) affirmed my fear… that this line of thinking is much too common. Now I see these for what they are: lies. And just writing about them raises my blood pressure.
The truth, thankfully, is this:
- You can completely trust yourself!
- You know more than enough.
- You can do health your own way.
- Will power? Whatever.
- You can enjoy health at every size.
Here’s the deal: Your struggle with weight is not about weight, nor is your solution to it.
You can ask my mom. You can ask the other men and women I’ve had the privilege of working with over the past decade (likely, people very similar to you) who have overcome their struggle with weight. They, too, will tell you: it’s truly not about weight. And the sooner you’re able to stop focusing on weight and start simply focusing on feeling your best for all the right reasons in your life (there are plenty!), the sooner you will be able to end your struggle with weight, improve relationships, and feel great… for good!
I repeat: It’s not a matter of weight. It’s, first and foremost, a matter of the heart.
And speaking of the heart (last time, I promise), I would appreciate it from the bottom of mine 🙂 if you’d take a super short survey. You see, I am working on a little something and need insight from people like you. Your answers will really help me as I move forward on my quest to help people (and the companies they work for) end their struggle with weight… once and for all.
Find the survey here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/waronweightsurvey
Many people can relate to having a love-hate relationship with food at work.
Sometimes it is a welcome sight because you either did not pack anything or accidentally left your lunch on the counter when you were flying out the door.
Other times, it is your worst enemy. You had your eating all planned out but then a platter of goodies shows up in the breakroom and, out of the blue, you have to face this internal battle with yourself about whether or not to 1) stick to what you brought or 2) indulge in the free stuff that everyone else is now eating, or 3) to heck with it, just have both. Basically, you either feel bad about your lack of willpower (whatever that is) or appear to be the food snob, food police, or on a diet (again). You just can’t win.
That’s where workplace wellness policies come in, right? They are supposed to guarantee healthy foods/beverages and time for physical activity at work, and thus, fix the problem, right? Well, as a corporate wellness professional, I certainly used to think so. But now I’m not so sure.
When I started my career back in 2007, I was adamant that workplaces needed strong, detailed, formally approved health policies. You can imagine my surprise when the same decision makers who hired me to improve the health of their employees, contain medical costs, and improve productivity would not support a healthy meeting policy – or even a healthy meeting “declaration,” for that matter. No exaggeration… it took six months, two surveys, three committees, multiple presentations, hours of discussion and all the evidence, data, rationale, employee support, and peer pressure I could muster to finally get an approval for what ended up being called “Guidelines for Smart Eating Opportunities: Our Commitment to Provide Nutritious Foods and Beverages at County-Sponsored Meetings & Events.”
Yes… all that… for guidelines.
Needless to say, I felt defeated and frustrated at the time. (If you have anything to do with worksite wellness, you might have similar feelings.)
However, a decade later, I am coming to the realization that it might have been the best thing that could have happened. I ended up learning three things that gave me an entirely new perspective on policies and other outside-in approaches to health:
First: A “policy” is only as good as the change that follows it. Call it what you want – a policy, declaration, guidelines, whatever. What makes it good is if it works. And to make it actually work, you have to get employees on board with it (with pledges, campaigns, trainings, etc.). It’s a big undertaking, but when they are on board, the possibilities are endless. Our senior management team quit serving food altogether at weekly meetings – a move that saved them not only a few donuts, but also some time and money. A couple departments decided to supply their own mini fridges stocked with affordable, healthy snack and lunch options. And more fruit and vegetable platters began to appear at “people-sponsored” gatherings, such as birthday parties and break rooms. Needless to say, well-rounded efforts can bring success both in and outside of the employer-sponsored meetings and events.
Second: Outside-in approaches, no matter how well they are done, can only do so much. Wellness professionals and employers can bend over backwards to ensure healthy options at work… they can pass policies, run programs, and pay for gym memberships, screenings, and insurance premiums. But these strategies will only ever scratch the surface… until we go deeper and help people change the way they THINK about themselves, their health, and their ability to achieve it their own way. Change like this – from the inside out – equips people to succeed regardless of what kind of food is in front of them.
Third: There is danger in over-complicating health. Health – at its core – was never meant to be wrapped up into multiple-page policies, 12-week programs, or in conjunction with carrots or sticks. Health is intended to be for and about PEOPLE… to be something each and every one of us can do on our own, fairly easily, every day.
Don’t get me wrong. I fully believe in making the healthy choice the easy choice wherever we are (at work or elsewhere). In fact, I recently created a 7-step process to simplify and streamline the workplace health policy process for the 45 municipalities involved in LiveWell Colorado’s HEAL Cities & Towns Campaign… and it’s proving to be quite helpful.
Yet I still cannot help but wonder if companies would be better off spending less time in the “policy part” and more time in the “people part” of the process.
Is it really worth the endless revisions, exacting of food criteria, and “but, what if…” arguments that often go into creating the “perfect” workplace health policy? Or, instead, could we just ask decision makers to agree on and formally/publicly commit to these three simple things:
- Our company supports and accommodates employees moving enough to feel and perform their best… which likely means moving more than they sit and more often than they eat.
- Our company supports and accommodates employees eating real food, not too much, and mostly plants, as author Michael Pollan suggests in his book, In Defense of Food.
- Our company supports and accommodates employees in drinking water.
Wouldn’t these – in a lot fewer words and less time – accomplish what we are after? Wouldn’t it provide the justification to employees to sit less and move more? To offer less processed food and more “real” food at work-related events? To skip sugar-sweetened beverages and provide water instead? Might it actually reflect health in its truest, simplest form… the way employees want it? I am starting to think so. By making our health and our health policies any more wordy or complicated, I am afraid we might be missing the mark.
One of my favorite people in this world called me yesterday. She has two little kids… and by little, I mean quite little – 18 months and 3 months. She was on a stroller walk with them… managing her energy instead of her time, she said :-), so the two of us caught up on life. We talked about many good things, but because we’re both moms and both honest, we also conversed about how hard raising little kids can sometimes be. Lack of sleep, trips that take twice as long as they used to, and being needed by someone (or two or three) all – the – time… topped our list of struggles.
These were her words, “It feels like I am always letting someone down.”
Like you, her words both saddened and hit home with me. In fact, I meant to write a blog awhile back, shortly after feeling this way. (I didn’t, only because I didn’t prioritize it. Not because I was too busy. Busy is 4-letter word in our house, but I’ll save that for another blog.) Anyway, it was three months ago… I was about mid-way through an intense 10-week business and speaking mentoring program, still getting settled after moving from Colorado to Minnesota, staying indoors a lot more (it’s COLD here in February!), and well… feeling a bit overwhelmed. I knew I had to regroup when I got all bent out of shape about not getting quite enough work done for my business and needed to put in one extra day. Don’t get me wrong… I love my work. But it meant I had to take my kids to daycare again. Let me tell you, mom-guilt set in pretty good. I was so hard on myself that I ended up being short-tempered and impatient with my kids and my husband. Hello? Why, if the reason I’m feeling bad is because I won’t get as much time with them, am I wasting the time I do have with them being a big grump?
Considering my career is coaching people to handle these types of challenges in stride, I figured I could use a taste of my own medicine. So, I took out a piece of paper and listed all the things I DID accomplish that month (rather than the things I didn’t). Here’s a few…
- Unpacked 2 trailers’ worth of stuff into my new house
- Cared for three sick kids (yes – all of them got sick within weeks of each other)
- Set up my office and resumed work
- Hosted company on three separate occasions
- Enrolled Eva in part-time preschool (and never forgot to pick her up)
- Joined and attended a weekly bible study
- Got my license after passing the required written driver’s exam (seriously?!)
- Signed all the paperwork at my new bank (two hours, two kids, no fun)
- Got my one-year-old sleeping through the night and drinking cow’s milk
- Got my 3-year old off the pacifier and helped him threw some major (and I mean major) withdrawal
- And a few other things…
I don’t tell you this for a pat on the back. I tell you this because your lists, no doubt, are just as long. Try it.
I’m serious. Should you find yourself in a rut, overwhelmed, or “always letting someone down,” grab a sheet of paper. Begin to think of and jot down everything you HAVE done in the past day, week, or month. I’m guessing that your list, like mine, will help change your perspective, stop the lies you’re telling yourself, and get you back on the right track. It’s amazing how just a little change in mindset can help you “manage your energy” in a more fun, positive, and productive way.
Now, whenever my mind is tempted to tell me lies about not doing or being “enough,” I choose to remember this simple truth: We can have it all and do it all, just not all at the same time.
It’s the truth I shared with my friend as she strolled her cute kids back into their driveway and we said our good-byes. It was a good thing to end on.
In my last blog, I said I might be done with health. And now I have another confession to make. I don’t like “S.M.A.R.T. goals” very much either.
It’s not that setting goals and making them specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound isn’t a good idea. Sure it is… to an extent. There’s just something too “science-y” about them… something too cold and impersonal when it comes to real life. Being a wellness coach, I have listened to numerous people confide in me about real life – their concerns, fears, struggles, strengths, and hopes for the future, what they envision life to be like when they’re feeling and performing their best. And, let me tell you, nagging them about “S.M.A.R.T. goals” after they’ve poured their heart out to me is about as fitting as those jeans I accidentally left in the dryer this morning. Ugh!
I have good news, though. I have found a more meaningful way to accomplish the same thing. Instead of drilling people about S.M.A.R.T. goals, I simply ask this question, “What one or two things would you like to start doing from now on?”
And then, I encourage and help them frame their answers into lasting goals, using a simple Start-Doing-What-When structure, like this:
I will start walking on my afternoon breaks.
I will start packing my lunch for work.
I will start getting up at 6am for quiet time.
I will start exercising a couple days a week.
I’ve found lasting goals framed this way seem to be more personal and meaningful than the typical “I will walk 15 minutes on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at 3:15 pm.” Such regimented, detailed goals might work okay for some people, but they have a tendency to annoy, overwhelm, and paralyze a lot of others into doing none of their so-called S.M.A.R.T. goals at all. Sometimes when there is too much detail involved, people lose focus of their real mission.
Finally, there’s one more thing I inquire about before closing our conversation. I ask, “Are you 80% confident that you can achieve 80% of your goal?”
This 80/80 Mindset, as I call it, is that sweet spot between having just enough challenge without the pressure to be perfect. I find it to be super helpful for people trying to make changes in their life.
So the next time you’re talking with someone – a patient, friend, spouse, co-worker, sibling, daughter, son, or perhaps yourself – about some changes they want to make, hear them out. See what surfaces. And then, help them turn what’s on their mind into a lasting goal, massaged until they have an “80/80 Mindset”… no more, no less. When their lasting goal is set and their mind is set, they will be, too. You never know, leaving S.M.A.R.T. goals in college textbooks and helping those you care about to truly discover their sweet spots in life might be the wisest thing you’ll ever do.
You would think I would have my elevator speech down by now. After all, I have been on my own for two years and have been asked, “So, what do you do?” a thousand times. However, I only recently figured out how to summarize by business and my purpose. (And by recent… I mean this morning.) Somehow, my effort to simplify health had me and, unfortunately, those who asked me, rather stumped. Ironically, I think the word “health” has been the instigator of my hang-up.
I am at the point where I hesitate to even use the word when I describe what I do. In today’s society, health seems to be associated with weighing a certain amount, eating a certain way, exercising a certain amount of time, and following a laundry list of rules and recommendations for sleep, stress, and work-life balance. The intentions are good, but I question the effectiveness of these “health” strategies (and, therefore, avoid using any of them in my life or my business).
What happens when people focus on weight? They get discouraged.
What happens when people feel they should eat a certain way? They don’t and feel guilty.
What happens when people think they need to exercise a certain amount? They often get an all-or-nothing mentality (and choose nothing) or obsess about it so much that it dictates whether or not they have a good day.
I have a hard time with this. In my book (figuratively speaking… hopefully someday it will be literally speaking), this isn’t health at all.
To me, health is living a life with purpose and meaning. It is liking who you are and who you are becoming. It is trusting your body and realizing how amazing it is. It is enjoying food and letting hunger be your friend instead of your enemy. It is moving and sleeping enough so you stay energized and “filling your cup” with the good things in life. It is becoming stronger – not so much by lifting weights, but by choosing to forgive and learning from your mistakes.
I know. It’s deep. But like it or not, that is where “health” has to go – where I am willing to go – to help people discover their best selves – their true selves – again.
Now to just get good at summarizing all that in a sentence or two…
Actually, you know what? Go ahead and try me.
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We all know those people… the “lucky” few who seem to eat anything they want without a worry in the world and still fit into their favorite clothes. So irritating!
Wait a minute. What if, instead of being irritated, we were intrigued by such people? Maybe we have a thing or two (or three) to learn from them. I have come to believe that these “lucky” people don’t have lightning-speed metabolisms. Nor do they have a PhD in “will power” or count every calorie they eat and burn. What they have is a healthy perspective on food and confidence in their hunger. Simply put, they THINK differently. Thus, I dare us to think a bit more like them by…
Letting food be… food. Stop labeling it as “good” or “bad” or “healthy” or “unhealthy” or “on my diet” or “off limits” or so on. The people who seem to be at peace with themselves, their weight, and their life also happen to be at peace with food. They enjoy it for what it is… delicious, beautiful, interesting, a way to entertain, an excuse to gather, a source of energy, and so on. Meanwhile, it’s just food.
Figuring out what foods you really love and love you back. Take the rest and pass it by, pass it up, or pass it on! People who eat what they love don’t actually eat everything. Instead, they pass by the less wholesome foods in the grocery store, pass up the foods they don’t really-really love, and simply pass when they aren’t hungry. This doesn’t make them picky. Rather, they are just what I like to call soulfully selective.
Trusting hunger. It’s our friend. A couple amazing things come true when people and hunger buddy up. First, food – in all its variety – tastes better than it ever has before! Somehow, being biologically hungry makes food extra delicious and extremely satisfying. Secondly, hunger gives us insight into what we want and how much we need. When hunger guides our eating, we naturally gravitate towards a balanced variety in just the right amounts. We are able to eat and enjoy. And, we are able to stop eating when we feel nicely satisfied but before we feel full. In the words of Dr. Michelle May, “You are able to eat anything, without eating everything.”
Are you ready to love and be at peace with food? Be one of the “lucky” ones? Then dare to think differently so that you can begin to see and treat food differently. Believe it or not, you might be able to have your cake and eat it too.
Improve your health and your life by first improving your perspective on them. Check out Well Simplified and the Mind.Set.Goal!™ series at www.wellsimplified.com.